After a good hard think about my happiness project as mentioned in a blog yesterday, I’ve decided to do mine a little differently. Committing to a year of 12 months focusing on different areas of my life is still quite a large feat and thinking of an area of my life to improve in a years time seems irrelevant when the problems will probably be something completely different, not what I’m thinking now.
So, I’ve decided to break it down into quarters. Looking just far enough forward that it doesn’t terrify me, but enough to challenge me and give me something to work towards. New year, new start, new happiness project plan:
January – Personal Space; an important one for me at the moment and my priority in not only the road to mental health recovery but piecing my life back together after the shake-ups the end of 2014 has thrown my way. Its really important for me to get my own space again where I can think, reflect, meditate, exercise, be in the comfort of my own belongings, pets and boyfriend without the pressure and lack of support from my parents breathing down my neck.
1) First of all going to make my living situation at my parents a lot more pleasant. With a few more of my personal belongings from the old house, pictures and probably digging out an old tv, I’ll create my own little oasis of calm where I can get away from things and gather my thoughts. Because lets face it, realistically I’m not going to be able to afford a flat overnight so I may as well make things as pleasant as I can for myself while I’m here
2) Focus on nothing but working, saving and getting this yearned for personal space. Not only to relieve me from living with my parents and allowing me ‘head space’ it’ll be a step in the right direction piecing my life jigsaw back together and hopefully allow me to get my cats back and back living with the other half
3) Whether living with my parents or when i’m in my own place, I’m going to make sure I treat myself to some proper personal time each day. Going for a walk on my own even just round the block to clear my head and think will definitely help me keep perspective, motivation and direction
February; Personal Happiness; over the past year I’ve been focused on other people’s happiness’s to much – always worried I’ve upset someone or pissed someone off and what I can do to help others who aren’t happy. I’ve not thought about myself, my own happiness’s for a long time. If I’m honest I’m not even sure WHAT DOES make me happy any more
1) think about what makes me happy and content in a work situation. Different qualities within different jobs that I’ve enjoyed. Find something that encompasses as many of those as possible. Follow my heart and do something I want to do, not what people think I should do or what might be the only option to take. I shouldn’t rush into making this decision. Take my time and work out whats right for me
2) think about what makes me happy and keeps my head happy out of work. I’ve noticed when I fill my life with lots of happy distractions then my anxiety is generally easily managed and kept to a minimum. Making plans to see friends and actually doing them, baking, going to new places, going for walks, taking up dancing which I’ve been meaning to do for years. Whatever I find that makes me happy. Do it, and lots of it
3) make a plan for future happiness. think about what’s going to keep me happy. everything’s always fun and seems rosy when you start something, but how will I keep that feeling going? giving myself little goals to follow in work, my relationship, friendships will keep things exciting and keep me happy focused
March; eat good, look good, feel good. Whilst I dont eat badly as such, my diet is a lot poorer whilst I live with my parents, so once I’ve realistically moved out and got myself settled I’m going to really focus on looking after myself both inside and out:
1) improve diet with a lot more freshly prepared fruit and vegetables, start making own juices at home. getting into a good habit with drinking more water (a big problem I always struggle with)
2) Exercise little and often. Getting into a routine of doing a little something every day. I get impatient I don’t see results quick enough but if I change the focus to making it a routine and the results being mental not physical then I think this will be more successful
3) make an effort on the outside. I’m not really very vain and I don’t pay close attention to fashion and making sure my nails are done and I’ll easily go to bed without taking my make up off. I need to make a little more effort on the outside; looking after my skin, hair, nails and even on a bad day making an effort with how I look on the outside will make a difference to how I feel on the inside.
Once I get to the end of march, I’ll review everything I’ve done. If it’s worked I’ll look to improving 3 more areas over the following few months. If it doesn’t at least I’ve given it a go and it certainly won’t have done any damage
Fingers crossed for Jan 1st, lets be having you 2015!
Keep smiling & stay safe